"I equate online dating to looking for a job," says Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.
), but it gives the impression that you have nothing to hide; confidence is always attractive.Make a Move In your initial e-mail to a potential partner, it's crucial to indicate that you've read his profile and took an interest in it.According to Ok Trends, the top three phrases in initial e-mails with the highest response rate are "you mention," "good taste" and "noticed that." So, describe something that resonated with you from his profile, advises Spira, but avoid physical compliments because "they seem too clichéd." And keep it brief: Ok Trends found that the ideal first message length is only 200 characters, or one minute's worth of typing for the average writer.To do that, "talk about yourself in anecdotes," says Gonzaga.Instead of saying that you like to cook (which plenty of people will do), describe in detail what your favorite meal to make is."It gives a richer picture of who you are," he adds.